God’s Word says that man is driven primarily by lusts residing in his heart, not needs. Our heart cravings drive our behavior. What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. (James 4:1–2) To define controlling behavior as a “need” assumes that the lust to control another person is a given,